Thank you for sharing. I can relate to and understand the frustrations you have with people who ask for help but don't seem receptive to it. Having been on both sides of the fence (in all honesty, more on the side that needed help) I can say it's one of the given pains of growth.

People who need help won't always be receptive to the kind of help they need at first because they need help seeing what they can't (or won't) see themselves.

The problem is when (as the helper) we keep trying to force the idea(s) when the person who needs it is not ready (yet). That shouldn't stop us from trying or making our point known.

More often than not, it takes time and being told many times for it to sink in, and for something to click.

I think this dilemma applies in any social situation not just when someone is asking for help. I had similar thoughts when deciding to write this. Should I write just to be likeable? Whether we think we're helping someone or not, I don't think it should stop us from speaking our truth (so long as we do it respectfully). It shouldn't bother us if people aren't receptive to what we have to say either. If we think our truth (advice/guidance) might help someone or contribute to constructive discourse then share it by all means. I know not everyone is going to like what each of us has to say and yes, it will hurt our egos. Personally, my ego is bruised beyond belief.

Is your end goal simply to be socially likeable? Somehow I sense that's not all of it. It feels to me that it might be a reaction to your desire to help, but you're not getting the results you are looking for when trying to help.

I think it's ok to just want to be socially likeable, but I also believe deep down we all want to help when we see someone who needs our help. It's just unfortunate how society has groomed us into being too jaded or afraid to because it might make us feel uncomfortable.